: Desmond Tutu : "In forgiving, people are not being asked to forget. On the contrary, it is important to remember, so that we should not let such atrocities happen again. Forgiveness does not mean condoning what has been done. It means taking what has happened seriously and not minimizing it; drawing out the sting in the memory that threatens to poison our entire existence. It involves trying to understand the perpetrators and have empathy, to try to stand in their shoes and appreciate the sort of pressures and influences that might have conditioned them... forgiving means abandoning your right to pay back the perpetrator in his own coin, but it is a loss that liberates the victim... it can bring about a wonderful sense of relief... and lead you out of being imprisoned by what would otherwise become hatred..."

To try is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard of life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, live, and love.